Many parents who welcome the idea of turning off TV and spending more time with the family are still worded that without TV they would constantly be on call as entertainers for their children. They remember thinking up all sorts of things to do when they were kids. But their own kids seem different,less resourceful, somewhat.When there's nothing to do,these parents observe regretfully, their kids seem unable to come up with anything to do besides turning on TV.
One father, for example, says,"When I was a kid, we were always thinking up things to do. We certainly never complain in an annoying way to our parents: '1 have nothing to do! ' "He compares this with his own children today:"They're simply lazy. If someone doesn't entertain them, they' II hap-pily sit there watching TV all day."
There is one word for this father's disappointment: unfair. He deplores his children' s lack of inventiveness, as if the ability to play were something innate that his children are missing. In fact, while the tendency to play is built into the human species, the actual ability--to imagine, to invent, toelaborate--and the ability to gain fulfillment from it are skills that have to be learned and developed.
Such disappointment, however, is not only unjust, it is also destructive. Sensing their parents' disappointment, children come to believe that they are, indeed, lacking something, and that this makes them less worthy of admiration and respect. Giving children the opportunity to develop new re-sources, to enlarge their horizons and discover the pleasures of doing things on their own is, on the other hand, a way to help children develop a confident feeling about themselves as capable and interesting people.
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精彩英语作文:父母和孩子的教育Parents and Their Children' s Education
Parents, especially those of teenagers, care about their children's education more than anything else. They could do everything for their children.Many of them spend most of their spare time coaching their children in studies; those who have no time or cannot do it have hired tutors. Some also send their children to after-class schools. Some even have tried to improve their home environment. It seems as if a better education is all that parents expect for children.
The present situation can be explained by the following reasons. First of all, as our country's economy has been moving ahead healthily, many parents have become aware that future success depends more and more on skills and education. Lack Of training or education will no longer ensure that young people have a promising future. Secondly, it is evident that in a competitive society there are both losers and winners. The children who have grasped better skills and more knowledge will enjoy more opportunities. What is more,' with school tuition increasing it is also reasonable for parents to expect their children to be somebody or do something great as a result of education they have received.
Certainly, it is good to see much of parents' attention is paid to children's education. However, in my opinion, emphasis should also be laid on fostering their other abilities and personal qualities. True, it is important to learn to succeed,but the first thing to learn is how to survive and how to be a qualified citizen. If this is included in good education that parents are seeking now, their children will be definitely ensured not only a bright future but also a sound intellectual and mental foundation, hence a healthy life.
The Communication Barrier Between Parents and Children 父母和孩子间的沟通障碍(收藏)
In China, there is an old saying: every family has their issue, the parents and their children’s problems exist all the time. It seems that parents and their children can never get along peacefully, their communication barrier comes to be obvious since the children come to their adolescence, this situation happens in many reasons.
在中国，有一句方言“家家都有本难念的经”, 父母和孩子间的问题总是一直存在。似乎父母和孩子永远都不能好好地相处，他们的沟通障碍打从孩子来到青春期就更加的明显，这样的情形发生是有很多原因的。
On the one hand, the children have come to the adolescence, they desire to be independent and get away from their parents’ protection. The age of adolescence means the children have grown up, they are no more the small kids, they want to make their own decision, so they become rebellious and go against what they parents tell them to do. They do this for the purpose of proving that they are grown-ups.
一方面，孩子已经来到了青春期，他们渴望独立，脱离父母的保护。青春期意味着孩子已经长大，他们不再是小孩子，他们想要自己做决定，所以他们变得叛逆，和父母叫他们去做的对着干。他们做这些是想要证明他们已经是大人了。
On the other hand, most parents take their children as the small kids all the time. In most parents’ eyes, their kids will be always kids, no matter how old they are, the parents still treat their children as the small ones, so they will make every decision for their kids. The parents refuse to accept the fact that their children have grown up and can make their decision, so the communication barrier happens.
另一方面，大部分的父母一直把他们的孩子当做小孩子来看待。在大部分父母的眼里，他们的孩子永远长不大，无论他们多大，父母仍然当他们的孩子是小时候的孩子，所以他们会为他们的孩子做所有的决定。父母拒绝接受孩子已经长大的事实，自行做决定，所以沟通的障碍才会发生。
The communication barrier between children and parents is very family’s problem, the parents should learn to let go gradually and the children can have a nice talk to their parents, thus the problem can better solved.
父母和孩子间沟通的障碍是每个家庭的问题，父母应该学着去慢慢放手，孩子应该和他们的父母好好谈谈，这样问题才能更好地解决。
About Raising Kids 关于培养孩子(收藏)
Today, I happened to read the news that most celebrities pay special attention to their kids’ education, when the baby was inborn, they had already planed the school, they order the school with good fame for the purpose that their kids can have the chance to enter the good school. Some parents even ask their kids to learn several skills in a time when the kids are in primary school. Every parent wants their kids to be the best, but it needs to step by step.
今天，我偶然督导一则新闻，大部分名人注重孩子的教育，在孩子还没落地的时候，他们已经为孩子计划好了学校，他们预定了名声好的学校，为了他们的孩子可以有机会进入到好的学校。一些家长甚至要求孩子在同一时间学几样技能，当他们的孩子还在初中的时候。每个家长都想要他们的孩子成为最优秀的，但是需要一步一步来。
It is such common situation that most small kids need to take several after-class lessons, because the parents want their kids learn as more as possible, so they decide to send their children to learn many skills. In my opinion, the parents should not let their children learn so many classes in the early age, the kids need to spend some time to play with their friends, they need to breathe some fresh air. If the parents push them so much, the children will go against with the parents.
很多小孩子需要在课后参加不同的培训班，这是很常见的现象，因为家长想要他们的孩子尽可能地多学，所以他们决定送孩子去学很多技巧。在我看来，家长不应该让他们的孩子在早期学这么多的课程，孩子需要花时间和他们的朋友玩，他们需要呼吸新鲜的空气。如果家长这么过度地强迫他们，孩子会有逆反心理。
Every parent wants to raise their kids to be the excellent persons, but they must take the right way, they need to give their kids some freedom.
每个家长都想要培养他们的孩子成为最优秀的人，但是他们必须注意正确的方法，他们需要给孩子一些自由。
如何与孩子沟通?How to Communicate With Kids?（必备）
As the saying that every family has their issues, the most common issue between families is the communication between parents and children. Most kids would not like to talk about their happiness and sorrow with their parents, they think their parents never really understand them. If the parents want to have nice talk with their kids, they must try to be the kids’ friends.
俗话说，每个家庭都有他们的烦恼，家庭中最普遍的烦恼就是父母和孩子间的沟通。大部分孩子不喜欢和他们的父母谈论他们的幸福和忧伤，他们觉得父母从来没有真正的理解他们。如果家长想要和他们的孩子交流愉快，他们必须尝试成为孩子的朋友。
The problem why the kids would not like to talk things with their parents is that the parents always treat their kids as the small ones, so when the kids want to try something they are interested, the parents’ first reaction is to deny the children’s trying, and tell them to do this is na?ve. As the parents always judge what their kids do with their viewpoint, the children feel frustrated and don’t want to talk to their parents gradually.
孩子不愿意和他们的父母聊天的问题在于父母总是把他们的孩子当成没长大，因此当孩子想要和他们聊一些感兴趣的话题时，父母的第一反应就是否定孩子的尝试，告诉他们这样做事很幼稚的。由于父母总是用他们的眼光来评判孩子的所作所为，孩子会感到受挫，慢慢不想要和他们的父母交流。
The parents should listen to their kids more, it is better not to give the children judgment right now, to be the kids’ friends will help promote the communication. So when the children tell their plans or interesting things, the parents should just listen to them.
父母应该多聆听孩子的心声，最好不要立刻给孩子下定论，成为孩子的朋友会让他们的交流更好地进行。因此当孩子告诉他们父母他们的计划或者有趣的事情时，父母应该听听孩子的。
英语范文:Helicopter Parents vs. Free-range Kids 直升机似的父母还是自由的孩子？(收藏)
According to a recent article on Newsweek concerning children’s’ education, there is an increasing number of parents worrying their kids to an extreme extent, depriving them of independence and freedom by keeping them around parents all the time.最近《新闻周刊》上的一篇关于儿童教育的文章表明越来越多的父母过度地担心孩子，把他们始终留在自己的身边，把他们的自由和独立意识都给剥夺了。
Some people applaud this phenomenon, suggesting that kids’ safety is the most important. Thus, they’d better not enter the hazardous society without supervision unless they become adults. From my point of view, some of their opinion is correct but keeping children away from independence is a completely erroneous decision. The reasons are as follows:有一些人十分支持这样的观点，并声称孩子的安全是最最重要的。因此，在成年以前孩子们最好还是不要在无人监护的情况下进入这个危险的社会。在我看来，他们的观点有一些是正确的但让孩子们远离独立则是完全错误的决定。我的理由如下：
First and foremost, “locking kids” may hinder their healthy growth, both mentally and physically. The kids who are locked may have heavy reliance on their parents, as their comprehensive skills such as communication skills or cooperative spirit being prevented from developing.首先，把孩子锁在身边会阻碍孩子精神和身体的健康成长。那些被关注的孩子会变得依赖父母，他们的综合能力，比如交际能力和团队合作能力，这些方面的能力可能会得不到提高。
Secondly, what these parents fail to see is the fact that the crime rate and accidents aren’t on a rapid rise. It is the abuse of mass media that make crimes and violencemore scary. The parents, who love their kids so much, are completely forced to live under the illusion that our society is full of riots or threats of accidents. Thus, kids can be allowed to have more freedom such as walking to school by himself, for instance.其次，这些家长没有看到的事实是犯罪率和事故并非急剧增长。主要原因是过度泛滥的大众传媒把暴力和犯罪变得更加恐怖。于是，那些爱护孩子的父母，总是有种这样的错觉：我们的社会充满了危险的暴乱和事故。所以，孩子们应当获得更多的自由，比如他们可以自己走路上学。
From what has been discussed above, we may safely draw a conclusion that kids should be given more freedom by parents’ effort. At the same time, parents should take many factors into consideration such as the time restriction for children and the evaluation tokids’ maturity and capability. Only thencan they enjoy a safe and meaningful childhood.从刚才讨论的结果来看，我们显然可以得出这样的结论：孩子们应当在父母的支持下获得更多的自由。与此同时，父母还当考虑到各方面的因素比如对孩子时间管制，或是对孩子的成熟程度及能力水平的衡量。直到那时他们才能过个安全而有意义的童年。